Why I’m Still Single

So for anyone that knows me knows that I am a huge fan of Mandy Hale, who is more affectionately known as “The Single Woman”. I started following her on Twitter about a year ago right around the time I went through a really bad break up. I am a huge fan of her tweets. They are all super inspiring and uplifting and encouraging to me, a young twenty-something college grad, who didn’t graduate with her “MRS” degree like 3/4 of my graduating class. I am one of the few single people of my friends group and it’s hard. The relationship I was in prior was one that was leading up to marriage and well, obviously that didn’t happen for me. So why AM I still single? I mean, heck, it’s been over a year since my last relationship, I’m young, I’m super hot and I love Jesus with all my heart- I should be a catch to any potential suitor! But here’s the thing. That’s not what the Lord wants for me (at least not right now!)

I am currently involved in an amazing internship at my church in the Twin Cities and I am working along side some of the most influential church leaders in America and working with middle school and high school youth, teaching them what it means to have a real, authentic, tangible relationship with Jesus Christ. I am learning how to be an amazing leader on my own without the help of a significant other, so that way when I do get into a relationship, it will be that much better! You see, this past year has taught me a lot about relationships, even though I haven’t been in a relationship in quite some time. It has taught me to rely on God alone. He is my Rock, He is my Comfort, He is my Strength. Putting all my hopes in a man will only lead to disappointment and leave me dissatisfied. This year has taught me that having true friendship is more important than having a less than mediocre relationship. This year has taught me that I can make it on my own and that even if I were to be single my whole life, I would be perfectly okay, because I have all I need. I have air in my lungs, a roof over my head, and the Love of the Lord in my heart. 

I’m still single because I am holding out for the best. I don’t want to date just anybody. I don’t want to give my heart away to just any boy that comes along and shows the slightest bit of interest, only to throw it away after a few months. No. I am holding out for a man that truly fears the Lord and worships Him with all his heart. I am holding out for a man that is worthy to come along side me in the amazing life I am already living for myself. That is why I am still single