Since when is contentedness with being single a precursor to being in a relationship? We say that God will bring us a relationship only when we are fully content being single, but then in the next statement we say that it is all on Gods timing? If it is truly God’s timing, it shouldn’t matter if I’m content with being single or not. What if the prerequisite of being in a relationship isn’t being content being single, but in being content in God? God gave me a desire for a husband, therefore I’m NEVER going to be content being single. I was not made for singleness. I can however be content in God despite being single, and I think that is the more fair approach.
I’m not one to say being in a relationship is my ultimate goal in life. No. In fact I say quite often that people should stay single for as long as possible because it gives you time to focus on yourself and your relationship with Christ. But I am, however, tired of people saying that one needs to be “fully content in whatever order to (fill in the blank of whatever they are trying to get)” I don’t think anyone is ever fully content in anything, ever. And I don’t think God is sitting up there waiting for us to be fully content. When have you ever been in a situation where you have ever felt fully ready for something? Chances are that there have been very few times. So why do we say this about relationships?
Now, I get it. Things don’t happen the way we plan. And God likes to give us surprises as to what His plan is. “Things happen when we least expect it.” But that’s just my point. If God is waiting for us to be content in our singleness before He brings us a relationship, then aren’t we putting it back on our terms instead of His? So how about we stop guilt-tripping people who are single and not content where they are. It’s okay for them to be unsettled with being single. God has made them for relationships. As long as you are seeking after God and seeking to please Him above all else, and glorify Him over everything, it’s okay to be wrestling with the fact that God’s not done with you yet and you are single and seeking a relationship! It’s okay to be discontent with being single and yet find your contentedness in God, because the only one who can fully satisfy the human heart is the One who made it.